Thursday, March 4, 2010

"Just wait until the baby gets here..."

Why do people say that?  If we had a penny for every time we say something and someone responds with, "Oh, but just wait until the baby gets here..." usually followed some statement of gleeful doom, we could probably keep the Dukeling in diapers for a month.  We have been quite emphatic in our declarations that we're clueless about babies.  I don't think we really need constant reminders of how much our lives will change once we go from being a couple to being three...or maybe someday more.  I will say one thing: hearing those words never makes me feel any more comfortable about this impending change (which looms closer every day).  If anything, it just makes me that much more terrified.  And it really doesn't help when it's followed by some platitude like, "Oh but don't worry, you'll be a great mother" or "But it's so worth it!"  Here is a truth about life: If you're about to say something that will have to be immediately followed with something else to make that thing sound better, or less horrifying, or irritating, or mean-spirited...just consider not saying anything at all.  We will find out all too soon what will happen "when the baby comes."  Don't spoil the surprise!

2 comments:

China Outreach Ministries-UNM said...

Did I tell you that Amanda Moore Jones (Beth's older daughter) had never changed a diaper before her son was born? I found that to be very encouraging because she seems to be handling motherhood quite well:) Love you.

Anonymous said...

People said that to us too...it is annoying. That said. When the baby comes, from our experience (which makes us "experts", right?! [not]) - it is both the most difficult and the most wonderful experience - not always at the same time :) Praying the Lord will give you both grace to accept the awesome stuff and the hard stuff as it comes!
Much love,
Shannon